Saturday, February 18, 2012

Love

Just watched the highly acclaimed Taiwanese movie 'Love' with my university buddies Alvin, Boon, Weiliang and Connie yesterday.

 

I must say I was at first worried when I heard from Connie it was not a comedy but an inspirational about Love. I mean...Look at me - school plaited skirt, laced boots, dark make-up, heavy accessories, soft corset like blouse...I looked like I belonged to the next theatre showing Ghostrider instead!

But the show turned out to be really hilarious and heartwarming. Though I had lost count on how many times I turned around and muttered 'SO TAIWANESE' to Connie on the characters' response and actions, I had nevertheless thoroughly enjoyed the show.

Story is simple:

  • A famous model Zoe, used to living off rich men, got acquainted with a simpleton Kuan by coincidences. During the time they spent together, she realized maybe there is something more to all the riches and fame in life - Love. Zoe then gave up her glamorous life, left rich businessman Lu, stood on her own feet and got a job to seek back her own integrity in life, and eventually sought the Love that had been missing in her life - Kuan.

  • YiJia realized she was pregnant with the child of Kai, her best friend's boyfriend, leading to a painful struggle among the three -Kai still loved her best friend Ni, but Ni hated both of them, as he tried to win her back while YiJia decided to keep the child under Kuan's advice.
  • Mark - a suave Taiwanese was a typical ladies' man - the kind whom you can imagine beautiful young chic girls will walk beside. He had never allowed any lady to get acquainted with his true feelings until he met Ye in Beijing -  the least likely woman you can imagine to be with him. Through her, he experienced real love between her and her son and decided to open up his heart to experience Love.
It's a very simple film with simple plots but somehow a film full of love:

  • Parental Love : Single mother Ye's love is even more heartwarming
  • Brotherly Love: "I will take care of both of you" Kuan said to YiJia and stopped her from abortion
  • Old School Love: YiJia's parents were always complaining about each other and saying bad things about each other but they truly love each other. Just being Asians and not expressing it out
  • Persistent Love : Kuan and Ni finally decided to be strong and forgive mistakes and continue on
  • Friendship Love: Ni forgave YiJia and even asked to be the Godmother of their child
  • Realized Love: Zoe found one thing that has been missing in her life - Love
  • Noble Love: Lu wanted Zoe to go back to him so badly but told her to seek her true happiness which he knew he would never be able to give her but Kuan could
 I took a step back and looked at my own life. The two real relationships I had was persistent love.

With HK, it was persistent and dumb. I gave up everything I had in my life then to fly across thousands of miles to him, for Love. Despite his constant abuse and cheating, I still persisted on and believed 'Love' can conquer all. I failed but never regretted though - I've learnt lessons in life from it.

With the second, it was persistent too. I probably should have ended it when everyone around me told me it was killing me and it won't work but I was persistent and wanted to push on...afterall he tried to. It ended but had given me beautiful memories for me to bring on in life.

For Kuan, his persistence brought him his Love. Mine didn't apparently but it brought me experiences which is both lovely and valuable.

I spend some time thinking what is Love then? What is so noble about it that people spend a whole lifetime just looking for it?

I guess my answer will always be the same as it has always been:

When I wake up in the morning and the first person who comes into my mind is him;
When I am down and the first shoulder I want to cry on is his;
When I am happy and the first person I want to share with is him;
When we spend time together and the only person who can bring on that real smile is him.

When he is down and he needs to run to someone, it's me;
When he is happy , part of the reason is me;
When we spend time together and he smiles, part of the reason is me;
When he is at his worst, he can keep away from everyone but not me.

Love need not be for eternity but will bring on eternal fond memories. It will happen when a couple feels that they want to experience that moment of togetherness and they believe in it. I always believe there is no reason for anyone to love another. Feelings can never be explained, so why should love be an exception?

These are my definition for Love and have always been all my life.

What's yours? :)